True friendship lasts an entire lifetime
By Josue Cornier
Last Updated:9:20 PM EST 2/24/10 Section: Viewpoint
An old Irish proverb states, "There are many types of ships. There are wooden ships, plastic ships, and metal ships. But the best and most important types of ships are friendships."
Friendships cannot have a value placed on them. If you're living life without friendship, you're not experiencing life. Friendship is essential to everyone's wellbeing and does more than human interaction can accomplish alone.
But how do you know when someone is really your friend? Someone once said, "Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down." Going the extra mile says more than words ever could.
There comes a time in every relationship which defies the norm in which you know that an acquaintance would not do anything to remedy the situation.
I've learned a lot about friendship during the Fall 2009 semester, when I had a pounding headache and was in pain.
A friend is someone I trust to be with me when I am close to fainting. And they are people who, no matter how I behave, are willing to be with me even when I am at my weakest and are willing to walk me back to my room and ensure I make it to my bed safely.
If I trust you with my life, and vice versa, we're friends. It's not about how outgoing you are or whether you are friendly, it's the act of trust that is the basis of friendship.
If I trust you to tell the truth, then you're my friend. If I have to censor my words around you in fear of hurting you, then we're not friends.
Friendship can overcome many things. Misunderstandings are common despite how hurtful they can be.
However, misunderstandings are temporary and aren't meant to intentionally hurt anyone. If we can't get thru this, I question if we are friends. If we do get thru it, chances are I don't want to lose you.
Positive relationships which aren't friendships exist. There are many people I admire who aren't friends. I interact with lots of people who aren't friends.
Friendship is not a state of mind, it's an act. It's something you do; it's not about whether you're good or not; it's not a reflection of you; it's a mutual relationship between people.
Friendships can occur in any setting. So next time you're with a group of friends, invite the lonely individual to join your table.
Remember, in order to gain friends, you have to take the lead and be a friend. Who knows? You may find that the person you invited to join you turns out to be the one you develop a lifetime friendship with.
jjc01356@sjfc.edu
Friendships cannot have a value placed on them. If you're living life without friendship, you're not experiencing life. Friendship is essential to everyone's wellbeing and does more than human interaction can accomplish alone.
But how do you know when someone is really your friend? Someone once said, "Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down." Going the extra mile says more than words ever could.
There comes a time in every relationship which defies the norm in which you know that an acquaintance would not do anything to remedy the situation.
I've learned a lot about friendship during the Fall 2009 semester, when I had a pounding headache and was in pain.
A friend is someone I trust to be with me when I am close to fainting. And they are people who, no matter how I behave, are willing to be with me even when I am at my weakest and are willing to walk me back to my room and ensure I make it to my bed safely.
If I trust you with my life, and vice versa, we're friends. It's not about how outgoing you are or whether you are friendly, it's the act of trust that is the basis of friendship.
If I trust you to tell the truth, then you're my friend. If I have to censor my words around you in fear of hurting you, then we're not friends.
Friendship can overcome many things. Misunderstandings are common despite how hurtful they can be.
However, misunderstandings are temporary and aren't meant to intentionally hurt anyone. If we can't get thru this, I question if we are friends. If we do get thru it, chances are I don't want to lose you.
Positive relationships which aren't friendships exist. There are many people I admire who aren't friends. I interact with lots of people who aren't friends.
Friendship is not a state of mind, it's an act. It's something you do; it's not about whether you're good or not; it's not a reflection of you; it's a mutual relationship between people.
Friendships can occur in any setting. So next time you're with a group of friends, invite the lonely individual to join your table.
Remember, in order to gain friends, you have to take the lead and be a friend. Who knows? You may find that the person you invited to join you turns out to be the one you develop a lifetime friendship with.
jjc01356@sjfc.edu
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